We are drifting slowly into the holiday spirit. This morning we got up early to go have breakfast at Jean’s Place. It was quiet, Robin was there working alone. We were joking about how women tend to stick together, especially when there are issues relating to men.
“Yes,” this is true said Robin without hesitating. “Men Do Stupid Shit.” It isn’t that she doesn’t love men, added Robin – she is just as nice to men as she is to women – “but they do stupid shit.”
Maria nodded sagely and in agreement. “This is true,” she said solemnly as if acknowledging a great and universal truth.
I mentioned this to several other women that I know. They all said the same thing. Of course, they do stupid shit, they are men.
I loved the simplicity of Robin’s statement and the way this gentle and loving woman said it. It seemed irrefutable to me. I sometimes wonder what the world would be like f men were not running so many things. Would we be dealing with climate change? Fighting fewer wars? Have fewer prisons? Would Congress be able to do any work other tearing each other apart? Would there be domestic violence? Mass shootings? Professional football and its attendant concussions? Almost no bank robberies?
If you look at the news, you will see quickly enough that many men do wonderful things, but that so much of the stupid shit in the world is done by men.
I can’t think of any acceptable or humane options for dealing with this problem, but it is important to think about it and acknowledge. Self-awareness is the first step towards healing.
I think Robin is a wise and thoughtful person. When I think about how I want to live in 2020, I have a new goal: to not do stupid shit.
Laughing my face off! This is a brilliant goal for 2020. Disclaimer – I am in love with the most wonderful man in the world. And – yes – he does stupid shit. (I love him anyway)
Gotta agree with Robin…but add…women do stupid shit too! (Kinda makes it easier to forgive most people…)!
Add me to the list. Men do stupid shit. They can’t help it.
LOL! Jon your goal is easier said than done. I think all people do stupid shit.
Best of luck with your new goal!
Like leaving your sweatshirt at the diner and then having to drive back to get it lol,you sure did prove my statement to be true in no time at all!! Still love you Jon ❣I love my conversations with you and Marie …HAPPY NEW YEAR to you both love Robin
Glad to make your day Robin, I will always try to make you look like a seer 🙂 When it comes to stupid shit, I will never run out of gas…:) Love to you and Happy New Year..
Happy New Year to you and Maria! I’m going to cop to it: as a woman, I do stupid shit, too. I like to think I don’t, but the history is there! Now maybe it’s not on a grand starting wars scale, however, I’ve done my share of hurting others, causing confusion, and adding heat rather than light. I think the great sin is plain selfishness, and the false belief(s) that I have the right to do what I want, without regard to others’ feelings or impact on their lives. I have been taught a different way to live, by a 12 step program, a way of love and consideration of others, and my life is very different now – full of love and service to others. I see that this is how you and Maria live – full of love and service to others.
I am so mad I wasn’t working this shift, so much to add to the conversation! Happy New Year…see you Saturday.
Mary…aka Attack Waitress
Never too late!