I announced last week that I am a wedding planner now, I’m planning the commitment/wedding ceremony of Ruth and Wayne, two Mansion residents who report that they are in love and wish to get married in May.

It’s a sweet story, these two people on the edge of life, committing to each other.

I am also the Best Man for Wayne, who is confined to a wheel chair. I’ve asked the world beyond – the Army Of Good – for support, and I am getting plenty.

So I need to offer an update on what we do and don’t need and how people can help.

First off, this will be a small and simple wedding, limited to invited Mansion staff and residents. There will be no Amazon Wish List, no Gofundme page. We don’t need either.

The Army Of Good is a generous gathering, there is always a desire to do more and do it bigger. But I have come to see the key to this work as staying small and simple: small acts of great kindness. always bounded, always in perspective.

The money I receive is limited and helps a number of people,  I told Ruth and Wayne on Friday they shouldn’t get all of it, only what is necessary and what is appropriate. I think a nice wedding is in order. I think that’s what we are planning.

Ruth has the dress she plans to wear. I am getting corsages and bouquets, I’m going to see the florist tomorrow.

There is no official color, fancy invitations, or lavish food offerings. In fact, there is no lavish anything. I wish to keep this small and simple and loving.

Ruth has her wedding dress and Wayne will be in sweatpants and a new black pullover. It will not be a formal wedding. I’m limiting my own contributions to between $500 and $600 for flowers, some clothes, a cake and cupcakes, and some music.

I almost have that much in donations (You can donate via Paypal, [email protected], or by check: Jon Katz, Wedding. P.O. Box 205, Cambridge, N.Y., 12816.)

People are welcome to craft or send their own decorations, posters, favors or cards: The Wedding, The Mansion, 11 S. Union Avenue, Cambridge, N.Y., 12816.