Life can happen to anyone, but when it happens to the extreme elderly, there is something heartbreaking about it.
Most of the Mansion residents have been pulled out of their lives and routines, and it is wrenching to see how frightened and disoriented they are.
Routine and familiarity are so important to them.
The residents who were transported to a different adult care facility – the Danforth in Hoosick Falls, N.Y. – seem the most confused and anxious. They were hoping to get to the Mansion this weekend, but the repairs there will take more time, possibly well into next week.
Some of the residents are staying with their families. Some don’t have any families.
The Homecoming Party we are planning for them on Wednesday might may have to be pushed back a day or so.
Maria and I went to the Mansion tonight – the dining and Great Rooms were untouched by the flooding, and all of the residents still at the Mansion turned out for Bingo.
There were three of them, they were eager to play. They miss their friends and all of the activity. But there was an eerie quiet in the building.
We have gotten very comfortable with one another. We trade phrases that rhyme with the numbers called, they razz me about my voice and calling techniques.
I’ve been canvassing the residents and aides, I think I’m going to go to the Danforth tomorrow with some stuffed animals, a couple of colorful hats and some sugar-free raspberry chocolates.
Also some cards, colorful books about animals and some stationery and stamps. I’ll see what clothes might need to be replaced.
I’ll bring Red too, he is skilled at lifting spirits, or at least comforting and distracting them. The Bingo game was fun, it was a quiet and intimate game, everybody won.
Madeline is struggling to remember that she isn’t yet allowed to go back to her room, she’s sleeping in a room upstairs. I can see the confusion in her face.
I feel for the residents, there is something heartbreaking about life erupting at such a fragile and vulnerable point. Acceptance is one of the ways they come to terms with this point in their loves, and being uprooted in this way arouses their worst fears.
I’m certain they will be back in the Mansion sometime over the next few days, and they are excited to hear about the Homecoming Party we are planning – music and the Chinese takeout food they have been wanting for many months.
The aides are taking their usual great care of the residents, everyone is working to keep them informed, calm and settled. Thanks for your support. It will be put to good use.