4 January

At The Edge Of Life, Fragility

by Jon Katz

The elderly in assisted care are among the most vulnerable people in our world.

A psychologist who works with the elderly told me there is nothing that brings out their fragility and vulnerability more than a sudden change in their environment.

In a sense the elderly residents of the Mansion are helpless. They can no longer live alone and are dependent on others for their most basic and elemental needs.

They depend on ritual and consistency to feel safe and secure.

Many of them are bewildered and frightened by their sudden move out of the Mansion, which is an especially loving and nurturing place. They all seem to care about each other.

The aides are especially sensitive to this, and are working hard to reassure and comfort them. Red means a lot to them, his very appearance is calming.

I was so glad to see Sylvia yesterday (above), she needs her paper and stamps. I’ll bring them to her this afternoon, she is always studying the Bible and writing letters.

On Thursday, almost all of the Mansion residents had to be  evacuated because of flooding and water damage. Some went home to their families, others to several different facilities to the aging.

Most went to the Danforth, an adult care center in Hoosick, Falls, N.Y. I have never seen the residents so anxious or happier to see Red and I, it feel good to be needed.

The Mansion staff is hoping the residents can  return this weekend, but that depends on the various regulators who have to approve their  return.

Some of the residents have asked me to help with individual needs – stamps, stationery, some clothes they need but didn’t have time to bring, some flowers or stuffed animals.

I’m thinking of sponsoring a pizza night, which they love, or some sugar-free treats. I think there will be some clothing needs, there was some damage in some of the rooms. But I’ll find out more today and tonight.

I’m also exploring getting some musicians in for some music when they return, to settle them down. Maybe some puzzles and animal books.

Please don’t send any packages or gifts directly to the Mansion, they staff is overwhelmed and there is a lot of work to do.

Last night I received $600 in donations, thank you very much. That money will all be used over the next days.

If you wish to contribute, you can send a contribution via Paypal, [email protected] or to my post office box, Jon Katz, P.O. Box 205, Cambridge, N.Y., 12816, and thanks.

I used up most of the money in the Mansion fund on various holiday gifts and celebrations for the residents and the aides. It feels good to fill it up.

The Army Of Good is always there when needed, I am grateful beyond words.

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