This loving woman squeezed Red so hard I was worried he might back away, but he turned himself over to it, stood absolutely still, trusted her completely. One of the wonderful things about Red in therapy is that I can trust him completely, I know he will be still and calm.

However good the care is in an assisted care facility – and the care at the Mansion center is clearly good – some of the residents get lonely, they feel shunted aside, out of the mainstream of civilization. Visitors matter, they connect people near the end of their lives to the world.