You may recall that Maria and I squabbled a bit about whether she wanted to see Star Wars or was coming with me. I suggested her attitude about the movie was a bit snobbish, but I assured her I was happy to go alone. She didn’t need to come. I often go to movies alone and have no trouble with that.

This tiff was about something deeper, but not too deep.It had its roots in Christmas pressure, we figured it out as we usually do. I believe squabbles are necessary and cleansing in any relationship. She sometimes agrees.

So this afternoon, we are heading to Bennington, Vt. to see the movie. If it is interesting, I will review it.

We agreed on certain points:

• I understand that she isn’t drawn to large and loud spectacle movies, but more personal and restrained films, it has nothing to do with snobbishness.
• She agrees that she doesn’t need to come for me, I have put no pressure on her to come to see a movie she knows she may not like.
• We both agree that we will drop all preconceptions and either like it or not.
• I pointed out that I am not a rabid fan of the franchise, not a Star Wars groupie, but am touched in mysterious ways by the idea of the film and the force within.

So we are off. I’m glad she’s coming (with no pre-conditions.)