December 22 2008 – I think friendship has to feel good to be good. Enduring friendships feel comfortable, healthy, unpressured. A friend doesn’t presume intimacy, or make you feel intruded upon, doesn’t assume things but asks, anticipates something you might need and tries to support it. A friend is encouraging, feels supportive. A friend is someone to call when you feel good and when you don’t. News doesn’t happen until you tell a friend. Then it becomes real.
  Friendships require work, communication, commitment. When they are taken for granted or when problems go unresolved, they can wither easily. Men to not, in my experience, value friendshp as much as women do. They feel friends are something you sandwich in between work and responsibility. I am fighting for friendship. I want good friends.